When talking about bringing up your stepson, their journey to being grown-ups should not be left out. After all, bringing up men of integrity who are responsible is the primary goal of parenting as a stepdad. Bringing up and initiating young men into adulthood has been done by men in cultures around the world. Village elders would teach the young men how to perform the roles and responsibilities of a man properly. Young men who have become men needed to maintain their manhood throughout their lives.
In recent times men do not have the task of leading young men into manhood ,instead they are allowed to have their perception of manhood from their experiences. Boys are then expected to figure out what being a grown up means, and that is why many of them do not have a clear guidance on what they are expected to do as grown-ups. As a stepfather trying to blend in with the new family, knowing how to create a connection with a son or sons not your own and the position you stand in the family might be challenging.
You will have to put in a lot of effort to determine how your stepson feels about himself and you being part of the family before bonding with him. Establishing of a strong foundation that will help you lead your stepson to manhood will require you follow the tips below. Gaining the support of the biological parents of your stepson or at the least letting them know your role in their son’s life will require that you partner with them.
The mother to your stepson has had experience raising the child and knows him better than you. Therefore, she should be involved. You will have to talk to the mother of your stepson to know the issues she had while bringing up the boy in an effort to forming a bond with him. Any issues that come up with your stepson will need his mother to make the final decision on handling him. Establishing a great relationship with your stepson’s father can also help improve the relationship between you and your stepson. Raising your stepson to manhood will be significantly aided if you make an effort of contacting his biological father and learning the ideas he had of bringing up his boy and reassuring him that you are not replacing him in his son’s life.
Creating a vision in conjunction with your stepson’s mother for your stepson will enable him achieve his full potential as he grows. Spiritual, physical, emotional and intellectual developments on your stepson will happen when a vision is created for him, and he will grow to be a responsible man.